So, I Married a Superhero

To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you’re wrong admit it;
Whenever you’re right shut up.

-Ogden Nash

They say God created Eve with ribs from Adam; I believe my husband was created with ribs from Captain America.  He scales balconies, once killed 10 house flies in one minute (ninja-style), he carries all the heavy groceries, and takes out the trash at lightning speed. 

It should be no surprise that the first thing this comic book-loving, action figure collecting, super hero movie watching, video game playing, comic-con loving man would say to me is that if I had some glasses I’d look like “The hot Baroness from GI Joe”.  Yet, it still makes me giggle.  I may not ever be “The Baroness” but one day I will be “Wonder Wife”, and I think that rocks even harder.

In the spirit of becoming “Wonder Wife”, I thought it would be important to use one of my early posts as a place for our wedding vows since they are, after all, the foundation of the institution.  (I need to find another word).

We crafted our vows with A LOT of inspiration from indiebride.com and with direction from one of my favorite marriage/relationship books, Lies at the Altar by Dr. Robin L. Smith.  The author teaches couples  “how to write true vows to live by” and I am happy we accomplished that.  We intend to mount our vows on a wall in our home but we can’t yet do that since — well, we don’t exactly HAVE a “home”. 

(We had a his/her version, the only thing changed between the two are the lines in italics.)

I choose you to be my truest companion, my cherished partner, my husband.
I promise to treat you lovingly and with respect, and share my heart with those you love;
I will be your greatest advocate, whether your endeavors succeed or fail;
I will envision a bright future for us and make plans to bring it to fruition;
I will do my best to be a better driver because I know how much my driving scares you.
I will accept your strengths and weaknesses as you accept mine, and keep patient as we learn from our mistakes;
I will remember to laugh when we need it most, and work to be slow to anger and quick to forgive;
I promise to listen to you carefully, consider your ideas, and be open to the many things I can learn from you;
I will try to limit the amount of bad TV I make you watch even though I think you secretly like it.
I will choose compassion when anger feels easier, and stay present when I want to turn away;
I promise to weigh the words I speak and the things I do; and act in your absence as I do in your presence;
I will strive to live consciously and deliberately so that our lives will be rich, and we might make a difference in this world;
I will try my best to not be an evil cave troll in the morning when you try to wake me up.
I will keep growing and changing, but I intend to always be someone whom you can be proud to call your wife;
I will take each year as it comes, but I will never take you for granted.

I think I’ve done a wonderful job thus far – but that’s not saying much as it hasn’t even been 2 full months since the wedding.  But, I am excited to fulfill these promises.  I love him.

Here is one of my favorite pictures from our ceremony on July 25th, 2008.

Photo Credit: The Image is Found