to remind myself

I will take each year as it comes, but I will never take you for granted.

-Wedding Vow #15

Things could be much worse.  Many people have lost their jobs, lost their homes, lost their businesses and their pride.  Luckily, this hasn’t yet happened to us.  However, since we’ve returned from our honeymoon it feels as though we’ve been hit from every direction.  Problems with the car, job stress, moving woes, changing tax laws, etc.  I’ve been trying to keep a happy face.  I do believe it will get better.

Last night Dalin told me that he wishes it wasn’t hitting us all at once.  I told him – maybe it’s not that bad…I said, “It’s kind of like getting a nose job and a boob job at the same time.  Double the pain, shorter time period.”  :)  I was happy to make him smile.

For me, times like these always shed light on the important things.    We have a big support system.  We have our health.  We have we each other.  We should never take those things for granted.  If I had a few giant houses, 18 new cars, and no taxes to pay (I’d be John McCain – hhahahaa)…j/k….I’ll start over….If I had a few giant houses, 18 new cars, and no taxes to pay – but was alone, without the love of my husband, our family, or our friends, it would be worthless.

So – today‘s post is just to remind myself of my wedding vow #15: 

I will take each year as it comes, but I will never take you for granted.

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So, I Married a Superhero

To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you’re wrong admit it;
Whenever you’re right shut up.

-Ogden Nash

They say God created Eve with ribs from Adam; I believe my husband was created with ribs from Captain America.  He scales balconies, once killed 10 house flies in one minute (ninja-style), he carries all the heavy groceries, and takes out the trash at lightning speed. 

It should be no surprise that the first thing this comic book-loving, action figure collecting, super hero movie watching, video game playing, comic-con loving man would say to me is that if I had some glasses I’d look like “The hot Baroness from GI Joe”.  Yet, it still makes me giggle.  I may not ever be “The Baroness” but one day I will be “Wonder Wife”, and I think that rocks even harder.

In the spirit of becoming “Wonder Wife”, I thought it would be important to use one of my early posts as a place for our wedding vows since they are, after all, the foundation of the institution.  (I need to find another word).

We crafted our vows with A LOT of inspiration from indiebride.com and with direction from one of my favorite marriage/relationship books, Lies at the Altar by Dr. Robin L. Smith.  The author teaches couples  “how to write true vows to live by” and I am happy we accomplished that.  We intend to mount our vows on a wall in our home but we can’t yet do that since — well, we don’t exactly HAVE a “home”. 

(We had a his/her version, the only thing changed between the two are the lines in italics.)

I choose you to be my truest companion, my cherished partner, my husband.
I promise to treat you lovingly and with respect, and share my heart with those you love;
I will be your greatest advocate, whether your endeavors succeed or fail;
I will envision a bright future for us and make plans to bring it to fruition;
I will do my best to be a better driver because I know how much my driving scares you.
I will accept your strengths and weaknesses as you accept mine, and keep patient as we learn from our mistakes;
I will remember to laugh when we need it most, and work to be slow to anger and quick to forgive;
I promise to listen to you carefully, consider your ideas, and be open to the many things I can learn from you;
I will try to limit the amount of bad TV I make you watch even though I think you secretly like it.
I will choose compassion when anger feels easier, and stay present when I want to turn away;
I promise to weigh the words I speak and the things I do; and act in your absence as I do in your presence;
I will strive to live consciously and deliberately so that our lives will be rich, and we might make a difference in this world;
I will try my best to not be an evil cave troll in the morning when you try to wake me up.
I will keep growing and changing, but I intend to always be someone whom you can be proud to call your wife;
I will take each year as it comes, but I will never take you for granted.

I think I’ve done a wonderful job thus far – but that’s not saying much as it hasn’t even been 2 full months since the wedding.  But, I am excited to fulfill these promises.  I love him.

Here is one of my favorite pictures from our ceremony on July 25th, 2008.

Photo Credit: The Image is Found